Judiang started it. She's such a pot-stirrer. I've been thinking since I read her post this morning about what fandom is about -- is it about our adoration of an actor, a band, a television show? Or is it about us, the way we relate to each other? I think it's probably a little of both.
There are some fandoms that I've been in and loved. My fellow Duranies have my heart but I never really meshed with the Ralph Fiennes fandom, as nice as they were. Servetus and I talked about the Armitage fandom on her blog about a month ago so if you're curious about what I think about you all it's there.
Something in judaing's story from this morning really annoyed me: the moment she became aware that her crush was kind of mocking a few of his fans. One of the coolest moments of my life was the moment Weird Al mocked me but he's Weird Al and mocking goes with the territory. I imagine in judiang's shoes it was an eyeopener. We don't want people we think highly of to think poorly of us, after all. How, though, are we supposed to get our affection across? A letter? A gift? Are we even supposed to try, given that it's weird to approach someone we don't know? I don't know but I'd like to hear your thoughts.
It can be easier to express affection in rock fandoms: you learn all the words and sing them at the top of your lungs at concerts. When all the stars are aligned and the audience is giving their love back to the performer magic can happen. Maybe that's what we want, to move those who move us. Pearl Jam knows something about that.